Have you ever had a moment where you look at the mirror, you just don’t feel like you used to? Feeling like there’s something missing… It happens, it happens to many of us. We get so caught up in the moment that we forget to do the things that make us feel like a woman. How do we change that? The list can get pretty long when it comes to how to be more feminine, but it is all about what you want to change in your life to achieve that.

There may be so many factors that would stop you being the way you used to. We are still living in a man dominated world in some areas, we think in order to survive and be successful we have to be like how men are, masculine, work focused and also think like men. Ok, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on work, but you shouldn’t also forget your feminine side. We shouldn’t let the world turn us into something we are not. You can be hardworking in your fancy heels and pretty makeup, you can still achieve more than what men do! Being feminine doesn’t have to mean only being girly, it should be all about feeling confident about who you are and what you do. Come on, who wouldn’t like to get that feminine side out to spice things up?

You don’t need to make big changes to feel more feminine, even making small changes can boost up your confidence. Also if you don’t feel comfortable doing these things in public, you can start doing them at home and see if you love it then it might give you confidence and you to get used to it. Start with small baby steps to get where you want to get, don’t be afraid to show your true self when you work on how to be more feminine. Now, let’s talk about how to be more feminine…

How to Be More Feminine

Start Your Day Positive and Energetic

Good start to a day is the best thing, a day where you don’t rush around but take your time to get dressed and enjoy  your hot cup of coffee (or whatever you feel like drinking). To make things better, pick a song that would give you positive energy, maybe something girly. You might know what songs you have are good at changing the mood, so instead of listening something slow and depressing, play confidence boosting songs then you will see the effects of it throughout the day. For once, decide that you won’t care what others think about the way you dress or the way you feel, you don’t need these judgy people in your life. Start your day deciding that you will be more feminine…

Don’t Be Afraid to Wear Heels

If you’re working in an office, full of men, then you might just get into routine of wearing flat shoes or trainers for not getting much attention. Maybe you hate the stares of your colleagues when your heels make noise and they find it annoying, so you end up sacrificing wearing heels just to stop this awkward situation and also who doesn’t like comfortable shoes right? Well, heels make noise, but they also look so damn good, therefore instead of thinking about others, put yourself first. Wear your heels and let them get used to the noise it makes as you walk. This might boost up your feminine side as well.

Wear Something Different

There’s a myth that women only wear matching underwear and bra, when they are on a date or have something special coming up. If that’s the case then we are doing it for others, rather than for ourselves. Why don’t you do something to change that? Feeling more feminine starts within, even though no one might be seeing it just wear matching pair. Also, lace pair might be better pick because it will look way sexier than the regular push up bra set!

Change Your Mood at Home

Who wouldn’t like being in comfy cotton PJs when they get to home after a long day at work, or after spending hours looking after the kids. Being comfy sounds dreamy, but you don’t need to be in your granny PJs to feel comfortable, do you? You can pick up silk PJs or a nightie, it won’t only feel so soft on the skin, but also it will definitely help you change your mood and feel more feminine. Also if you want to take things a little further, why don’t you watch Marilyn Monroe films? Her energy will make you want to change yourself.

Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things

We get so used to the routines that after awhile change sounds scary. You might be wearing the same hair style for years or the same makeup without changing anything, because you like to play safe. Getting used to a routine isn’t good, it might be in some cases, so instead we should discover new things. Beauty routine shouldn’t be boringso do something different. If you can only wear nude lips, change it to bright lips. You might think it is not your true self then at least do it when you’re alone and pose in front of the mirror, you will be having so much fun doing that. Even changing your fragrance can make a difference. Fresh scents are good, but why don’t you try something more feminine, like Chloe Love Story? Also, go to a hair dresser to change the hair style that you get used to tying up, have a blow dry or even change the hair colour, change can be so good! Don’t hide your beauty and show the world your true beauty.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Your True Self

Last but not least, just don’t be afraid to be yourself. Don’t be afraid to laugh out loud or don’t try to your body image, wear things that flatters you. When we let the world change us, we take a path that turns us into different people than what we really are. We shouldn’t be afraid of showing our women sides, we should be proud of who we are. You shouldn’t be afraid to wear heels or short skirts to show off yourself, if that’s what you want, you should just do it without worrying what your colleagues or community would think about you. Don’t be concerned about what others think, just live your life as how you want it to be.

I am sure everyone has their own ways of how to be more feminine, it is all about wanting it. Do you think we are affected by the community? What do you think about this situation? Why do we let the world change us? What do you do to feel more feminine? What are your “how to be more feminine” secrets?

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  • Sheridan Grady

    I loved reading this! I work in a office which is 95% men and always wear flats but I’d love to wear my heels and I’d definitely feel more feminine! Such nice tips! x


    • I am the same! I hate the stares I get when I walk in heels, someone even complained about it! x

  • Charlotte Mill

    These are such great tips – I always shy away from heels but when I wear them I always feel so much better!

    Charlotte x


    • I am the same, but I’m working on changing it 🙂 x

  • Hehe heels is something I can not wear!!! I have tried but my feet can’t cope

    Beauty Candy Loves

  • Ashley Christabelle

    When I wear lipstick and perfume, I feel 100% feminine! x


  • Oh my goodness this is so true! It’s so easy to kind of fall into a pattern. I work in a museum (literally) so if I wear makeup no one notices. But I do it for me! It makes me feel good! Great post Ela!


    • It is the opposite for me, when I wear makeup, some men ask me what’s the point… I hate working in an offic full of men!

  • This is such a lovely and inspiring post, Ela. I completely agree with your last point. We should never be afraid to embrace our true selves. We should do what we want without worrying what others may say or think.


    • That’s something I wasn’t doing for so long, now I just ignore what others say or think, if it is about my happiness.

  • This was a really interesting post. I have to say that I find it easier to be more feminine when it’s warmer, when it’s cold then elegance goes out of the window!

    • Definitely agree! Cosy thick clothes might not be the best option for looking sexy.

  • I really enjoyed this post! I love to wear matching underwear & perfume to feel very feminine. Add heels to that & I’m really feeling it but I don’t wear heels every day. Great post xx


    • I only wear heels once in awhile. I got sick of the complainings of men colleagues! x

  • Great post! Matching underwear is the best thing for confidence. In fact, there’s no reason why any woman should have to settle for subpar underwear. I also find a nice swatch of red lipstick on the lips can go a long way as well 🙂


    • agree with you! We should do the things firstly for ourselves, it will definitely boost up the confidence 🙂

  • Very nice post Ela, I agree about the fear of wearing high heels in the office at least that was the case for me too in a previous job. But why not just wear them if it makes you feel good? I think the main thing here is that all of your suggestions are great confidence boosters. Gemma x

    • I am in that situation at the moment. I can’t wear heels frequently because so many people complained about the noise it makes, it definitely breaks my courage. I just shouldn’t let them affect me. Men… x

  • I totally agree with change your mood at home! It doesn’t matter that nobody sees me, but when I have a “sexy” pj’s on I just feel good about myself 🙂 This was an amazing post!


    • Good that I am not the only one 🙂 it feels great to wear something different that cosy pjs 🙂

  • Lovely post! Wearing heels and a little lipstick always makes me feel more feminine x

    Tiffany Tales – A British Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

  • Great post! However, according to this, I am not feminine at all 😀 I can’t walk in heels, always have mismatched underwear and have the ugliest, but the comfiest PJs 😀 I think it’s all inside of you. I feel great in my All Star shoes and my cute underwear that doesn’t match, and I do feel feminine.. I love an occasional pamper, though. That is what makes me feel special and feminine 🙂 I guess that’s a very individual thing 🙂


    • You kinda described my situation at the moment 🙂 however when I do all these, I kinda feel like tomboy 🙂 it is all about the way we feel, it doesn’t matter what you wear or what you do. If you are happy about how you are, then this is the best feeling ever 🙂

  • Katie

    I think that I act and dress very feminine but at the same time I think “like a man”, meaning I’m not very emotional and I’m very ambitious and career-orientated. But I definitely have days when I want to be more girly so this post is great inspiration for that! Especially wearing matching underwear, even though no one else sees it it’s always a confidence booster.

    • I am carrier oriented too! I guess I chose the wrong field for doing all these things, being a mechanical engineer and working with men all the time made me stop doing most of these things. Men are wining all the time, so annoying!

  • I have always describe myself as tomboyish because I am not your average, girl next door, gentle and soft spoken kind of woman. I also used to curse like a sailor and am never afraid to speak my mind but all that aside, I have a very feminine side. I love my red lipstick, my heels and my pretty manicures. I guess that makes me a well balanced woman? LOL!

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

    • Well balanced pretty woman you are! Studying and then working with men definitely turned me into tomboy! According to men, a mechanical engineer should be manly…

  • Loved this post a lot. I feel like this most days – always changing into granny jammies as soon as I enter the house and because I’m taller than my boyfriend, heels have gone out the window. But there’s a lot to be said about feeling amazing in a pair of killer heels and wearing something silky and sexy and feeling good about your femininity again.
    Thanks for reminding me 🙂 xxxx
    Betty x

    The Betty Stamp

    • I am the same lately, getting into comfy pjs are more appealing than wearing something sexy ha ha 🙂 I am way shorter than my fiancé so in order to not look like a little kid next to him, I need to wear heels, at least when we are out for something special 🙂 x

  • This is such a fab post, loved the bit about heels. Throwing on heels really does make so much of a difference.xx http://www.jesskadenise.com

  • Love these suggestions! I do them all and it really helps.

  • Great tips doll!! Thanks for sharing

    Hope you’re having an amazing Monday! Kisses,


  • Lovely post Ela! I’m so terrible for wearing my cosy pjs around the house whenever I get the chance. I’ve just picked up a silk pair and you’re right, wearing them instantly changes my mood and I feel much more feminine!

    Becki | http://www.beautyandthebrunette.co.uk

    • I’m in my comfy pjs most of the time but whenever I wear something different then it definitely changed my mood! x

  • Heels instantly make me feel better! I can’t walk too far in them but I feel so much more confident!

    Danielle’s Beauty Blog

    • I wish walking in heels was easy! I can’t wear them for so long.

  • Caliope Couture

    I personally love a pretty, fitted dress and I instantly feel totally feminine 🙂
    Have a great week!
    Christina ♥ https://caliope-couture.com

    • Fitted dresses look amazing!
      Have an amazing week 🙂

  • Ellie Adams

    Such a wonderful post hun, I always think I’m relatively feminie but I do have a real tom boy edge that kicks in sometimes. Beautiful lingerie and a pair of heels are the items that make me feel most feminine!


    • I have that tomboyish side too, that part of me love comfy and not too girly things 🙂 x

  • I find putting lipstick on automatically makes me feel more feminine, or even wearing something nice for a special occasion 🙂

    Velvet Blush

  • This is such a great post, Ela! I agree, I think it’s great that women have become more ambitious and career focused in recent years, but I think embracing our femininity is also very important and the tips you’ve shared here to help bring that forward, even in the office, are fantastic! Thanks so much for sharing and I hope you’re having a great start to your week so far, lovely!



    • Totally agree with you, beauty! We shouldn’t forget our true selves and be happy to embrace it. x

  • I love feeling feminine and sexy, we all do, don’t we? That’s why I get up a bit early to put a makeup on, even if it’s very simple it makes me feel better. High heels, fresh manicure and red lipstick are definitely essential when I want to feel super feminine. There’s nothing wrong with trying to be feminine, we are women for God’s sake, it doesn’t mean we can’t be clever or smart or make prestigious careers. x

    Mummy’s Beauty Corner

    • Some men think the opposite, we can’t be smart and look good at the same time. Small things like wearing lipsticks and dressing up definitely boost up the confidence. x

  • Missy May

    I used to be a tomboy, but I must say the feeling of femininity is wonderful. But I must also say that its sometimes hard to be feminine. Personally speaking! Ha! Thanks for sharing this tips with us. Great! 🙂


    • Ha ha I feel the same way:) I like being feminine but at the same time I have that tomboyish side in me.

  • Christine K

    Great tips – it’s true, there are times where you just need a boost to feel better. Starting your day in a positive light is one goal that I’ve started and have kept true to. It’s worked well so far!


    • It is something I am trying to focus on. Having a good start makes a big difference.

  • Edna

    Great suggestions! My favourite is definitely trying new things, even if it’s something simple like a new hairstyle or perfume 🙂


    • Trying new things might be hard at first, however it is something we should all do once in awhile 🙂

  • Great tips hun! Sometimes with our busy lives we get lost in the moment and forget to be more feminine; I like “don’t be afraid to try new things”I always tend to want to do something different and new even if it means takings risks.


    • We should take small risks once in awhile, it helps to boost up the confidence.

  • These are awesome tips Ela. Thanks so much for sharing 🙂


  • Karina Guimarães Ribeiro

    I love this post, sometimes we really forget to be feminine.
    I love wear floral dresses and makeup, makes me feel more feminine and beautiful!


    • I forget it most of the time, being comfy and tomboy get more tempting. x

  • Wonderful tips to embrace femininity! Great post! =)

    – Cielo

    Mermaid in Heels

  • This was such a cool read and it made me think quite a bit. In a way I feel like a very boyish girl: I love wearing trainers and trousers and I love all sorts of sports. But then again I’m hugely into makeup and clothes… I guess for me being feminine means to be a healthy and confident person who knows who she is, and can do things she loves, no matter if they’re feminine or masculine. Gender equality is such an important subject! Thank you for bringing it up lovely <3
    I hope you have a lovely week gorgeous<3
    Emma xxx


    • I am the same, a tomboyish person who also loves being feminine. It is all about the way we feel. We shouldn’t let the word stop us from being who we really are.
      I hope you’re having a great week, lovely! <3 x

  • I Love, LOVE this post! I work in an engineering environment and always wanted to dress more feminine, but I don’t. Being yourself, wearing something different is a mantra I need to embrace more! Great, detailed post you wrote!

    • I am a mechanical engineer so I know how you must be feeling! Men just don’t understand women!

  • Love this post! I definitely feel feminine when I do my skincare at the end of the day and to start the day 🙂

    Maireem | My Fair Autumn | Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat: myfairautumn

  • Bernadette
  • I think your last point was really good – we should be ourselves and learn to be comfortable in our own skin 🙂

    Away From The Blue Blog

    • It is something I was ignoring for quite a long time! 🙂

  • I love this post and I try to be as feminine as possible where I can, most of the time I am in gym clothes so when I have the chance to dress up I go all out 🙂

    Pams Stuff and Things | Charlotte Tilbury Giveaway

    • Small things can make big difference, dressing up definitely makes me feel more feminine:)

  • This is cute! I totally admit that I don’t wear heels because I don’t like the attention. Also I am already 5’9″, so it makes me super tall.

    • Ah I wish I was that tall! I am 5’2″ and my fiancé is 6’3″, so I need to wear heels for not looking like midget next to him 🙂

  • Something I shy away from is actually heels, because I feel like I walk very awkwardly in it and then am afraid of others judging me. But of course, practice makes perfect, haha. I also need to wear those night gowns versus comfy pj’s – that’s been a thing I’ve wanted to do for aaages.


    • I was the same, but practice makes perfect so the more I wore it, the better I got 🙂 you should also do that!

  • Sometimes it’s nic1e to feel beautiful and feminine , I’ve been trying to start my mornings with positivity and energy ! I’ve been getting up earlier and doing some yoga and meditation before I leave in the morning and I’m already feeling so much better 🙂 I also like to dress up nice for myself not just for dates because I think it’s important to remind yourself that you are worth your love as well 🙂

    lots of love, Marianne xxx


    • Meditating and yoga in the morning sound great, I should also start doing that. We dress up to impress others but we forget to be beautiful for ourselves! It is something we should change 🙂 x

  • I’m totally on board with wearing something different or even styling something you own in a radical new way. Thanks for these lovely tips and a reminder to be more feminine. It’s not something I’ve thought about in a while!

    xx Yasmin


    • These are the things we all forget, we shouldn’t forget to be ourselves and be happy with who we are! x

  • This is a lovely inspiring post, I often get days like this where I feel a total mess and I need to give myself a little ‘shhjuuuuj’ and this is the perfect way to do so! P.S love your blog! <3

    The Dazzle Guide

    • Being tomboyish mess is more tempting than being feminine, I am trying to change that and do things to boost up my confidence! Thank you 🙂 <3

  • definitely wearing heels. Great post dear.

    Tega Enai

  • Aditi Oberoi Malhotra

    Love this post!!

    Adi xx


  • Siffat Haider

    It’s so important to stay positive and energetic!

  • Love this post Ela! Wearing super high heels, painting my nails and letting my hair down always makes me feel so pretty and feminine 🙂

    Thirteen Thoughts

    • They make me feel pretty too 🙂 They are confidence boosters!

  • Awesome tips Ela!! I would love to be more feminine too but wearing heels are giving me sore feet and backaches sadly 🙁 How I wish I can sashay down the streets in those killer heels but I think I’ll just be myself and dress according to my comfort level 🙂

    Oh and happy intl women’s day hun!!

    xoxo, Aldora
    Aldora Muses – A Beauty & Lifestyle Blog | Instagram

    • You can you can still have that feminine side and confidence without needing heels, it is all about the way you feel about yourself 🙂 x

  • Diana Horsfall

    I love heels, but wear them only for meetings, events. Most of the time, I enjoy wearing platforms or sneakers that look super cute with dress 😉

    • You look gorgeous and feminine no matter what you wear, love your energy! 😉

  • I love these tips Ela- especially as someone who is quite feminine, sometimes when I’m feeling a little bit stressed out I find that taking that time to myself and doing the things I love such as dressing up or wearing a little bit of makeup can do wonders for both my self esteem and confidence!



    http://www.anjelique.com.au | snapchat: anjeliquetv

    • When I’m having one of these down days, it gets really hard to have that feminine side then I am a total mess 🙂 dressing up and a little bit pampering are confidence boosters! x

  • aww! what a very apt post as today is International Womens Day! thanks for sharing this. happy womans day to you and to all the lovely ladies here 😀

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • I’m loving these suggestions, definitely need to wear heels more often haha! Thanks for sharing dear, hope you’re having a great week!

    xx Melis

    • I should do that too! I hope you’re having a great week. xx

  • BettyCook

    Thanks for your tips,and i wan to become more beautiful

    BettyCook http://www.dreamydressshop.com

  • I am loving this post! I think heels are such a great way to feel sexier and more feminine and if the colleagues dont like it, they can deal with it 😉 I should try switching up my barbie pjs for something a bit more sleek and feminine- my poor partner probably feels like he’s with a 12 year old hahah

    Rachel xx

    • I really should care less what my colleagues think, in the end men just understand why we do things! I am sure your partner will be happy about it 😉 x

  • Shwetali

    Love your post Ela. I dont have any secret as such but I always be as I am. “i am what I am” kind of thing 🙂

  • I’m all for wearing heels, in fact I very rarely wear anything other than heels these days haha! I’ve always been quite feminine, though I often forget to try to wear new/unusual things, so thanks for that tip 🙂

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

    • Wearing high heels everyday is a dream! My comfy flat shoes are more tempting than heels 🙂 x

  • I’ve never described myself as feminine but I think it would be fun to give it a shot. Although I don’t think I’ll ever like wearing heels, haha!

    Love, Richel. | Richel Goes Places

    • You can still feel feminine without wearing heels, even switching your lipstick to something you’re not used to can give you that confidence!

  • Priscilla Eliodoro
  • Nadia

    I absolutely LOVED this post and the empowering message behind it, lovely! My fave quote, if I may quote you, is “being feminine doesn’t have to mean only being girly, it’s all about confidence in who you are and what you do”. Amazing!
    The tips were really great – heels and more feminine items that make us feel beautiful and proud of who we are – I am all for it! These pieces of advice apply to relationships so well too. Even though I’ve been married for 1.5 yr (that’s not long but still lol), I never wear a slouchy super old PJs in front of my husband. And not because he might not like it (that guy is a keeper, he nursed me back to health from the most disgusting sinus infection). I do it for MOI – I feel more confident and happy wearing new, perfectly fitted and pretty outfit. As a result, I feel good and happy = positivity & love-filled home <3
    Great post, babe!! Hope your week is going super great!
    xox Nadia

    • We should do things firstly for ourselves and then for others. For now I love being in my comfy pjs but I need to change that once I’m with my soon to be husband. When I dress up and pamper, I feel more confident, they are definitely confident boosters:)
      I hope you’re having an amazing week, Hun! x

  • Love these tips! For me, I just make sure to do my face every single day. I used to never wear makeup. I’d also only put it on when I’d go out. But I feel like putting my face on every single day helps me feel so much more feminine.

    Connie | Sponsored by Coffee | Etsy

    • I am in that situation at the moment, I am always too lazy to put makeup on, so it is something I should really work on!

  • I love this post! Your message is absolutely spot on. Like Connie I had fallen into the trap of only wearing make up when I am going out, until I realised this meant I was doing it for others. I now wear it every day x

    • I was/kinda still am that way, I should work on changing that! I should do things for myself then for others!

  • I loved your last point about not being afraid to be your true self. That is such an important message that many people need to hear and remind themselves of — thanks for sharing!


    • It is something I tend to forget and I have to remind myself!

  • Saša Rakovec

    Great tips!

  • What a nice post Ela! Staying true to yourself is so important!
    I don’t think I have any secrets on how to be feminine,but I definitely love a bold lipstick and a nice pair of heels!

  • Think this happened to me when I first become a mum, I felt quit lost and just not like myself but eventually I got back to my old self. These are all just great tips and a beautifully written post 🙂 x

    Beauty with charm

    • In your case it is understandable! So many responsibilities and so much to focus on can change your life dramatically. Once we get the confidence back then things get back to how they used to be. Thank you so much 🙂 x

  • Marvellous post, and I agree regarding the matching underwear. I particularly love shopping for lingerie, and definitely dress for myself first. I always feel feminine and confident with wearing lace and a favourite lipstick. This is the second blog today that I’ve read about that Chloe Love Story scent, I must check it out. Thanks! <3 /Madison
    Paris Street Style

    • Small things like that can boost up the confidence and make you feel more feminine. We shouldn’t do things to impress others but do them for ourselves first.

  • Trang Do

    Love these great tips! Nice post!

    Love from http://www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

  • Bernadette
  • Samileen

    Such a lovely and refreshing post, i really want to go back to wearing heels, even though they kill my feet, but that is something that instantly gives you a moral boost and in a way make you feel a bit sexy too, haha.

    Sam || Beautydetour

    • I forget wearing heels once I get used to comfy shoes, but when I do then it makes me feel sexy too 🙂

  • Totally inspiring post!! I have been meaning to clean up my PJ selection.


  • The Sunday Mode

    This was a really interesting post to read, especially because at times I feel like I’m perceived as so girly and feminine, but I just don’t often feel it! I think because I never wear dresses or skirts and in my head I’ve sort of associated those with being very feminine things, if that makes sense? I do love the idea of wearing heels more though, I’m fairly tall even without heels so sometimes I get nervous to wear them in public because I feel like a giant. Definitely shouldn’t let that stop me though!


  • Makeup is what makes me feel more feminine. Nothing beats red lips for that!

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

  • This post is so on point and it’s so inspiring. I think, like you said, many of us over look certain things in our life, in ourselves, and we often stop to wonder what exactly is it that other people have that we don’t. And the answer is, nothing. It’s up to us. It’s always up to us.

    I’ve recently been made to start wearing heels for work everyday so I can definitely say that it’s been a challenge but I’ve also started feeling much better about myself and I’ve started feeling way more feminine.

    Being afraid of being ourselves – such a heavy truth. I think that’s why we spend most of your lives unhappy with who we are.

    Ella Pinto xx

  • I wouldn’t call this post “how to to be more feminine”, more like “How to feel more empowered as a woman”!. This was such a fab post!

    Angie | Chocolate & Lipstick | Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

  • Wow! I saw the name of this post and I was like ‘ooooooo ;)” haha! I would love to start doing this and start wearing my heels again! It’s been so long that I need to get used to them! And you are so right about the noise thing! Something about it makes you feel more feminine.


  • A very inspiring post indeed 🙂

    Who doesn’t enjoy spending their day in their PJ’s hey? but even better in silk PJ’s that’s for sure.

    One aspect which really makes me feel feminine even if I choose not to wear any makeup at all is perfume! I spray it on throughout the day, and when I go to sleep at night.

    Also, use a lovely face cream when you wake up and before you go to bed, so quick and easy.

    Laura xo